New addition: http://karenmoline.com/lurchingintodecrepitude/?tag=adult-adoptees
One more: http://reformtalk.blogspot.com/2012/03/what-annoys-me-about-adoption.html
Here is a thought that I've been feeling the need to express for a long time, both in this group and in our TRA 101 group (where I have just posted this same post). White parents: the extent to which you refuse to listen to the voices of adult transracial adoptees and other people of color, based on their lived experiences, is also the extent to which you will prove deaf to the pleas (spoken and unspoken) of your own children of color. And those of you who absolutely and steadfastly refuse to listen to our voices, will find years from now that you've missed tremendous opportunities to truly hear your own children's voices--again, unspoken as much as spoken--but it will be too late to do anything about the missed opportunities. When we adult transracial adoptees and other people of color share in this group, in TRA 101, and in other forums around transracial adoption, it is a gift that we offer freely to you. Please consider that some of what you might perceive as "harsh truths" are simply our sharing with you glimpses into our own lived experiences--which will be the lived experiences of your own children. A gift is a gift even if it doesn't come from Tiffany's and isn't diamonds wrapped in silk. Thank you for reading and considering this!