EXTENDED: UPDATE

CALLED HOME: A new anthology is planned for adoptees who are in reunion (or not yet in reunion) or searching for birth family and tribal relatives. Your photos and birth information will be published to help you! Please tell your adoptee friends. Send an email to tracedemeyer@yahoo.com. Deadline extended to APRIL 15, please email if you are writing.

Monday, November 21, 2011

QUESTIONS: a new journey begins...

By Trace A. DeMeyer
Whenever I find new adoptees, I want them to know immediately we share this experience. Here is someone who is in the first stages of discovery...
http://urbanhaas.blogspot.com/2011/08/unexpected-connection.html
What strikes me about this new adoptee and his new adoptee journey are the QUESTIONS: " Is it right to contact someone who carried you and gave you up 42 years ago? What if reaching out is painful or opens old wounds? What if it’s better not knowing? What if they’re bad people? What if …. Many questions rolled around in my head as I considered what to do...."

These are our thoughts. What do we do, how do we handle contact and reunions, what ifs, etc. There are no guidebooks for this which is why I wrote my memoir One Small Sacrifice. I had to explain to others we are not alone and if they are Native adoptees, I want them to know the history and how the Indian Adoption Project files are sealed to hide their hideous intentions to erase us as Indians.

I feel for this adoptee: He writes:
"...Contact. What happens next? We’ve been corresponding via email and are making plans to meet face to face. It’s exciting. Both of us felt shock at the sudden connection. Neither of us have experienced the pain that could have come. Not yet at least...."

One reason I blog and read other adoptee blogs is our shared experience. Sharing our stories is how we heal...

Have you found any new adoptee blogs?

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Baby Traffickers: Nightlight Adoption Agency

Nightlight Christian Adoptions has been the subject of at least two investigative articles by The Charleston Post and Courier where they looked at Nightlight in Greenville and attorney Raymond Godwin.
Just go to http://www.postandcourier.com/and search Nightlight Christian Adoptions and look for "The Price of Adoption" on Sept 21 and "Attorney Says Oklahoma Tribe Never Expressed Interest Before Infant's Birth" on Sept 14.

Raymond's wife Laura Beauvais-Godwin heads the Nightlight offices in Greenville SC. Both Nightlight and Godwin's law offices share the same building address at 1527 Wade Hampton Blvd in Greenville, SC 29609.

One of the articles said, "But the larger issue, according to skeptics, is the allegation that some birth mothers, agencies and attorneys conceal adoptions and prevent birth fathers from asserting parental rights." and "Once these agencies and lawyers get the birth mother on the hook ... they tell these birth moms not to answer any calls from the dads," said Shannon Jones, the Charleston attorney who represents Simmons and Brown. "Of course, then they argue the dad is a deadbeat."

Which is exactly what happened to Dusten Brown.

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